In three weeks, three old friends/acquaintances have passed away; one from a tragic accident and the other two from health reasons.
I am entering the next phase of life, where more people you know die, and where my odds are rising. I am not deceived - in that I understand and accept that death is coming, but it certainly makes you think about how one manages the relationships around them. If death doesn’t make you think – nothing will.
Two relationships were from our childhood. I, as now, was aggressive and opinionated. My comments were hurtful and I never resolved things from those years. At the time I only had the bubble of the world I grew up in, and like the measles, I adopted the thoughts of those in my small circle. I was just a child so there is plenty of room for error, it would have been nice to pick up the conversation later in life for a more intelligent interaction. I am disappointed I did not attempt to do so.
Another individual was a sickly, strange and odd person with a tragic past. I was not empathetic to his strange personality and shut him down frequently in group settings. I justified this at the time, but now I realize I could have been more compassionate.
These are not things I will be able to solve this side of eternity.
This short post is just a reminder to me to settle down and think it through. There are times we should stand on mountains and not move, and then there are times we should be patient.
There are some mountains where my feet are planted and I remain convicted to do so, but a few I should climb down.
"As only Christ can speak to me in such a way that I may be saved, so others, too, can be saved only by Christ himself. This means that I must release the other person from every attempt of mine to regulate, coerce, and dominate him with my love. The other person needs to retain his independence of me; to be loved for what he is, as one for whom Christ became man, died, and rose again, for whom Christ bought forgiveness of sins and eternal life. Because Christ has long since acted decisively for my brother, before I could begin to act, I must leave him his freedom to be Christ’s; I must meet him only as the person that he already is in Christ’s eyes. This is the meaning of the proposition that we can meet others only through the mediation of Christ. Human love constructs its own image of the other person, of what he is and what he should become. It takes the life of the other person into its own hands. Spiritual love recognizes the true image of the other person which he has received from Jesus Christ; the image that Jesus Christ himself embodied and would stamp upon all men."